Reflections from our birth team- part 1

As you all know I had an amazing team of people surrounding me and cheering me on during the birth of Moonbeam. I have asked them to share words, thoughts, reflections of the birthing experience. So that I can share them here with you. Be on the look out for more from our birth team.

1 member in particular I am especially grateful for. She was truly a heaven sent gift. Our photographer and my new friend Vicki. We we worried about not being able to afford to pay someone to photograph our birth. It was important for us to document this journey, because we knew this experience would be beautifully healing and powerful and we wanted to be able to share this experience with others through pictures, words, and video. E is a photographer but I knew I needed him hands on with me during labor and birth and that he wouldn’t be able to take snap shots.

We had spoken with a friends daughter who is interested in photography about coming over. She was excited, but I wasn’t sure it would work out. I didn’t feel right about calling her in the middle of the night or asking her to drop what she was doing to come over during labor if it happened to come at an inconvenient time for her. One of E’s photography buddies also mentioned if it happened at the right time for her, she would be willing to come over and take photos as well. I still didn’t feel like we had a secure photo documentation plan.

Well a few weeks before my due date my midwife mentioned that she knew a photographer who wanted to expand her portfolio of home birth photography and was looking to shoot a homebirth pro bono. She nominated us.

A week later we found out that Vicki has accepted the nomination moments after E was robbed for $1700.00. We were so grateful that E was ok, but were a little shaken by the experience. The good news of Vicki accepting us as clients, was very comforting and calming in our time of disarray.

A week or so later she came over to meet us, get to know Sol baby, and see the birthing space. From that moment on I felt connected. I had tons of prodromal labor starts and stops, and Vicki would text me to check in. Those texts and check ins helped me more than she would ever know. Her support and advice always helped me to refocus and lift my spirits.

During the birth, Vicki was one of the first people to arrive and last to leave. She was so much more than a photographer. She was family. She was an integral part of our birth team. She played with Sol. She helped us remove water from the birth tub so we could add more hot water. She made the call to the midwives to head back when my labor progressed. She talked to me during labor and just seemed to always know the right things to say and how and when to say it. And she captured such a beautiful day in such a beautiful way.

She wrote the following poem as a reflection of our birth experience.

Rebirth

She’s smiling, happy to know it’s finally time

First Baby is happy, but shy

Working through waves, letting them wash over her

More people arrive, excited and ready

Time passes, as her body opens the clock changes

Daddy lovingly creating in the kitchen, checking on her

Settling in, it could be a long night

Her body decides it’s time for Second Baby to enter

She doesn’t think she can do it, everyone holds her up

Embrace her, love her, encourage her

Self-doubt, her body letting go regardless of her feelings

Low energy, but she musters strength enough

Strength she’s always had, never known before

Power she’s always had, but never been able to use

Love, overwhelming love in the room, palpable

He enters. She cries. They all embark on a new journey together.

– Vicki Beauchamp , The Memory Box Photography

Here is a preview of some of the amazing images she captured, more to come.